26. If someone defends their harsh or hurtful opinions by saying they are “just being honest,” believe that they either

25. If someone seems like a nice person to your face but aggressive and different behind a screen, believe that the latter is more of who they really are, they’re just in a position where they’re not afraid to show it.,21. When people don’t show up for you — especially for significant times and events — believe that they are more invested in the idea of your relationship than you as a person. Everyone says they care — the people who show up are the ones who actually do.,11. If someone is irrationally judgmental or angry toward other people, believe that those people have something they want very, very badly (and are completely convinced they cannot get).,So don’t worry about eating more “superfoods” like kale, tiger nuts, or Indian gooseberries: The key to eating well is paying closer attention to the variety of fresh fruits and vegetables you eat in a day — seven a day, if you can.,18. If someone aims to seek revenge on those who have hurt them, believe that they are not so much trying to get even as they are trying to invalidate what that person did or said.,17. If someone tells you that they miss you and want to see you but they don’t make plans or follow through, assume they are trying to be more socially gracious than they are trying to actually reconnect.,1. When a friend seems to have something negative to say about everyone they know, believe that they are treating you the same way behind your back — chances are, you’re probably not the outlier.,2. When someone tells you that they “aren’t looking for a relationship” right now, believe them, because that’s pretty much always how people rationalize not wanting to commit to someone who seems like they should be right.,3. If someone cares more about what could be on their résumé more than they do their eulogy, believe they care more about how others see them than how they make others feel.,And this is why the Okinawan diet works: Their focus is on getting a large variety of fresh vegetables and fruit, rather than becoming hyper-focused on increasing your intake of one “superfood” vegetable or eliminating an entire food category that has been deemed “bad” by the public. Their meals are never just tofu or bitter melon, and they’ll frequently have rice or noodles, instead of just sweet potato. Their meals are often a colorful assortment of different vegetables and food types, of different colors and textures.,24. If someone promises you they will change so that you won’t be mad at them anymore but doesn’t actually do it, believe that they are not going to until they are ready — on their own terms.,So don’t worry about eating more “superfoods” like kale, tiger nuts, or Indian gooseberries: The key to eating well is paying closer attention to the variety of fresh fruits and vegetables you eat in a day — seven a day, if you can.,Pratibha did everything to please the animals — she tried to give them food that cows loved back home in India — jaggery, roti, daals and so on. But the Indian-American cows shunned Indian food! They prefered the store-bought cowfeed that they were used to eating.,8. If someone threatens to leave you when they are angry — but promises to stay when they are calm — believe that they are just trying to hurt you more than they actually want to go.,7. If someone goes out of their way to apologize for something that they did in the past, believe that they really are sorry, because at that point, there’s nothing to gain other than their own sanctity of mind.