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Step #3: Put Your Shortlist Into Yahoo! Finance: This is my favorite place to go for financials on a stock. If you combine a few clicks with some browsing on the site, you’ll find annual revenue trends, the EPS for the past 4 quarters, key metrics like the P/S and P/E, and more. I’ll then compare the stock with other companies in the same industry. If I like what I see, it usually ends up on my portfolio soon after.,“This isn’t awkward! Just sad. I saw a girl sit down and wait for at least two hours for someone to show up. She sat in my section, and ordered coffee after coffee, just waiting. Eventually, I stopped by to see if she needed anything else. And she just started crying. She said, ‘I guess he’s not coming after all.’ I gave her a cookie on the house, but she didn’t eat it.”,You may not be able to take care of yourself or make decisions without your loved one’s constant input or permission. You feel as though you truly need your loved one rather than simply receive support and love from them. You don’t allow yourself and your loved one to have personal time and space, or if you do, you become consumed by worry and upset feelings.,You may take on a parental role with your parents as a child, taking care of them instead of them taking care of you. You may do or feel you need to do more than you should reasonably be expected to do. You may not be sure where age-appropriate boundaries are, what others need or what you should do.,Relationships of all kinds can be tricky to navigate, especially for those of us dealing with past pain and trauma that affect how we relate to others. I encourage you to do your best to not judge yourself, and to be compassionate and understanding instead. All relationships and people can use a little support — you don’t need to feel ashamed or alone in that. Constant communication and patience with yourself and your loved one are key.,Even though it may be difficult and scary, push yourself out of your comfort zone and remind yourself that you don’t need them to get through the day. Remember that you’re a strong, capable person and distract yourself or engage in other relationships. Brainstorm all the times when everything worked out, even though your loved one wasn’t there. Communicate with your loved one and make sure they feel like their boundaries are being respected.,In these situations, bringing in a relationship or family therapist can be crucial. Psychology Today has a database that can help you find the right fit. Other than that, communication and “I statements” are another good option. Talk to your loved one about your needs, including ways you’re feeling stretched too thin or used.,Relationships of all kinds can be tricky to navigate, especially for those of us dealing with past pain and trauma that affect how we relate to others. I encourage you to do your best to not judge yourself, and to be compassionate and understanding instead. All relationships and people can use a little support — you don’t need to feel ashamed or alone in that. Constant communication and patience with yourself and your loved one are key.,In these moments, remember that your loved one is their own person and they have other situations and relationships that can affect their well-being too. Make sure you understand and respect their boundaries, even when it’s difficult, and know you’re only responsible for yourself and your actions. Consider talking to your loved one about your feelings and ask them to provide some logic to help you realize that your feelings aren’t facts.,I can’t pretend that most of my coffee dates weren’t awkward, as first dates tend to be. But, they did and do still happen. I’ve actually witnessed several other people on awkward coffee dates just by popping into Starbucks for a black tea. So, in the spirit of continuing to prove my friend wrong, I asked baristas to spill the beans (pun intended) about the most awkward coffee dates they’ve witnessed. Ahead, eight baristas spin some of the saddest and most cringe-worthy tales you’ll ever read.,If you’re struggling with this, try to remember that your loved one will be okay and think of all the times when they got better and everything worked out. Remind yourself that your partner is strong and can get through what they’re struggling with, and that the same goes for you. Think about all the successful, pleasant relationships and moments in your life; try to focus on those and other helpful distractions.,Remember that even if you say “no,” your loved one will still love and appreciate you. You’re allowed to set boundaries and take care of yourself first. You can suggest other helpful options to them, but don’t feel like you have to do something. I like to remember this anonymous quote:,You may take your loved one’s negative emotions personally, believing you’re at fault and that you have to do something to “fix” it instantly. You may put a lot of pressure on yourself to make sure your loved one is happy at all times, and when they aren’t, you feel like you failed or aren’t good enough. You may overly “mother” your loved one and struggle to maintain boundaries with them.,You don’t want your loved one to be unhappy or in need, so you’ll do whatever you need to do to help them. You may not set up or stick to your boundaries and may push yourself to say “yes” when you may need (and are allowed) to say “no.” You take care of your loved one’s mental health and physical health first and foremost, ignoring your own or pushing it to the side.,Once upon a time, a friend told me that no one really takes people out on coffee dates. But I (ever the least fun person at a party) proved her wrong. Because I almost exclusively ask first dates to meet me at a coffee shop. Something about the atmosphere just makes me feel relaxed. Somehow, chatting over a latte or a cup of tea on Saturday afternoon feels way less loaded than sipping on a glass of wine at 9 p.m. on Friday night.