As researchers have noted, part of the strong correlation between adoption and addiction stems from the trauma adoptees

Besides being prone to addictive behaviors, Sunderland argues that adoptees are expert adapters. Though they are overrepresented in cases of mental illness, personality disorders, and suicide attempts, adoptees are also more likely to be extremely intelligent. The rate of giftedness in adoptee populations exceeds that of the non-adopted population, and as Sunderland speculates, part of this likely has to do with our capacity to adapt so masterfully to basically any situation. We must fit in to survive, in other words. All throughout the show, we see Beth morphing and adapting, with chess being the only real constant. She uses her incredible intelligence not only to win at chess, but to carefully plot how to sustain and conceal her addictions. And although she is a mastermind, she is not immune to blundering, both on the chess board and in her personal life. Her deep feelings of sadness and emptiness cause her to seek ways to fill that void, until she finds herself bare and exposed. This occurs in the orphanage when we see her overdosing on the tranquilizers she has so skillfully managed to steal. It happens when she uses sex to feel something other than hollow. It is present in her alcoholism. Above all, it manifests in her addiction to chess, an obsession that is at once necessary for her to achieve the greatness at the game she does, but also detrimental to her wellbeing. In each of these moments where Beth’s mask slips and we see just how much trauma has impacted her life, we are transported back to her childhood. Throughout the series, although she physically grows, she remains the same scared and lonely little girl trying to steal pills to escape herself.

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Beth was fortunate to find that love and support she so desperately needed to survive and thrive, but not all adoptees are so lucky. Beth’s story in The Queen’s Gambit can therefore be seen as a warning: don’t assume being adopted is all fun and games. It carries great harm with it for many adoptees. Choosing to ignore this fact is choosing to perpetuate this harm.

Besides the personal nature with which I related to the scene in the basement where Beth realizes the father figure she never really had was there all along in Mr. Scheibel, I think this moment also depicts what so many adoptees need so badly from the rest of the world. We want to be supported and believed in, just like everyone else. But we also want to be believed. We want to be believed when we say adoption harms us, even if it is true it has helped some of us. We want people to hear that message and not silence us or gaslight us just because we speak about adoption in its full complexity. Sure, plenty of adoptees are fine with their adoptions. Plenty of adoptees are happy and adjusted. But so many are not. Just this month, an adoptee I tangentially know from adoption circles on the internet took her life. This is a tragedy in adoption that is being willfully ignored by those who want to promote adoption as an ideal solution to a handful of social problems, when in reality, adoption creates just as many problems as it solves.

The culmination to the series involves a surprise visit from Jolene, who returns Beth’s chess book, and urges Beth to go to Russia to compete in the Moscow Invitational. At this point, Beth has hit rock bottom. She is on the precipice of succumbing to her alcohol and drug addictions. Jolene offers to pay for Beth’s trip to Moscow, but not because she wants anything from Beth. Jolene will not even accept the offer Beth gives to accompany her to the tournament. In this moment, Beth begins to realize that there are people who love her, and their love is not conditioned on anything. The full extent of this realization does not happen until the end when Beth is victorious against the reigning champion, Borgov. Beth has allowed herself to lean on her chess friends, calling them at night to discuss the games she has played and taking advice from them. Though they are her rivals in the game, they are her true friends in life.

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Beth was fortunate to find that love and support she so desperately needed to survive and thrive, but not all adoptees are so lucky. Beth’s story in The Queen’s Gambit can therefore be seen as a warning: don’t assume being adopted is all fun and games. It carries great harm with it for many adoptees. Choosing to ignore this fact is choosing to perpetuate this harm.

While it’s not a perfect analogy, the sense of betrayal many adoptees feel regarding their biological family is strikingly similar to how Beth grapples with her mom’s role in her life. It doesn’t matter if giving us away was truly done in the hopes that we could live a better life. One of the pervasive themes you will hear if you sit down and listen to adoptees is that we inhabit this ambivalence with regards to the parent figures in our lives. We are told we are chosen, but we know we were not chosen by the people our infant selves desperately wanted. We are told we were loved so much by our biological parents that they gave us away to strangers. We are told our birth mother did the most selfless thing by relinquishing us, so we infer that choosing to parent your own child is selfish. We live these mixed messages our whole lives. No wonder so many adoptees have identity issues.

Beth’s character embodies so much of these ambivalent identities as she struggles to figure out who she is in a world where it never seems she fully belongs. She was not completely ‘at home’ with her biological mother, and her time in the orphanage is no different. Perhaps the most compelling depiction of her attempts to blend in while also forging her own identity is seen in her life with her adopted mother. The filmmakers did an exquisite job of portraying the entire relationship in this uncomfortably contrived manner. On the one hand, it is clear Beth loves her adoptive mother, but on the other, she does not relate to her at all. There are glimmers of genuine love from her adoptive mother as well, but there are also clear indicators of narcissism and exploitation of Beth’s gift for chess. Her adoptive mother capitalizes on Beth’s abilities and uses them to jet set around the world with Beth for tournaments, to drink fancy alcohol, and have affairs with mysterious men. Despite all of this, when her adoptive mother dies, the undeniable truth that this is yet another traumatic moment for Beth is made clear. She keeps her adoptive mother’s robe, and even sets it up on the bed, so when she returns from having lost several speed chess games against Benny Watts, she can fall into the robe and cry in its arms, like she would have done before her adoptive mother’s death. Beth even wears this robe on several occasions, seemingly trying to invoke her adoptive mother’s personality. Again, the symbolism of such moments in terms of the adoptee experience is remarkable. So many of us adoptees cloak ourselves in superficial identities because we are too scared to dig inside and find our own voices and speak our truths. We might get abandoned all over again if we do that.

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One of the hardest things for adoptees to do is ask for help. Extreme independence is a common coping strategy developed in response to trauma, so it makes sense why Beth would be so resistant to help, as many adoptees are. Her recognition that she did in fact need others was life-saving for her, but also emotionally cathartic to watch. The apex of her self-actualization came when she ‘went home’ with Jolene to the orphanage. Mr. Scheibel, the janitor who introduced her to chess, dies just before the tournament in Moscow. Beth discovers, in the basement where they used to play, that Mr. Scheibel has saved every newspaper article and announcement of Beth’s victories. He has been following her all along and cheering her on every step of the way.

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