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A final thing people can learn is that politics is a traumatic experience for a lot of people. Our focus is not just on “let’s stop the bad thing,” but on helping people hack into the potential and the possibilities. We have to literally affirm communities. Politics has become so hard and divisive that we leave out the joy, we leave out envisioning the potential of what people can do when they collectively use their power. That’s what we try to do and integrate in our political work. It’s not about the politics—it’s about the people.

“I have a secret,” Samantha told me one day. “I have been feeding the black puppy by the back door.” Elated that I had the prescience to follow my hero, I told her about my mother’s fear of rabies. Sam dismissed me with conviction, “No rabies in this country.”

Family Two consisted of four illegal immigrants who occupied two bedrooms in the back of the house. Family One and my family looked down on Family Two, because the parents worked less-than-minimum-wage jobs at ungodly hours that were friendly to undocumented workers but detrimental to human health. The father at a construction site a three-hour drive away, and the mother as an assistant caretaker for the elderly. They were both illiterate farmers back in China.

Though it’s an incredibly unexpected way of being able to find depth in our relationship, it still requires a bit of thought. Once I realized this was an opportunity, I had to start looking at it that way.

From that moment on we openly defied our parents and fed the dog with impunity. Mickey Mouse was the only iconically American character we knew, so we named her Mickey, gender normativity be damned.

This is absolutely an experiment in making the best of a not-so-easy situation but I could imagine anyone, regardless of proximity to their partner, could make it work for them. But, no, you can’t have my login.

I was deeply fond of Family Two, because they seemed unaffected by the cultural inferiority complex that Family One and my family keenly exhibited. With them there was no talk of class or social status, there was no envy nor condescension. Though they often came home covered in dust or smelling of sewage, they were warm instead of self-pitying, curious instead of preachy. They seemed to have the gift of accepting life. They had a pair of teenaged twins who were natural troublemakers and therefore, my natural heroes. The boy was called Kevin, and the girl was too enthralled with the prospect of having an English name to pick one. She called herself April, June, Olivia, this week she was Samantha, which she pronounced Sa-man-far.

Knowing your hot buttons — those things that are sure to ignite a reaction in you — gives you some command over your behaviour. And allows you to be able to explain what’s going on to your partner.

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late to antitrust? Antitrust should be dealing with the reality of anticompetitive behavior in markets, not ideals of how companies work. And it is the difficult job of the law to determine which of these durable advantages just described are part of fair competition (for example, a better user experience) and which are not (for example, buying out dangerous rivals, or exclusionary deals that keep out competitors). Here, the key problem with Thompson’s analysis is that he comes close to assuming this problem away by implying both that his aggregation theory is the real key to understanding online markets and that the winners are there because of aggregation, and not these other advantages and strategies, and that the product is therefore the winner on the merits.

I am aware that there exists an uncanny psychological phenomenon in which, when asked to describe their pets, pet owners unconsciously choose to impose a limiting, narcissistic narrative onto them by describing themselves. “He’s the strongest dog in the pack,” says the bodybuilder. “She’s picky and independent,” says the activist. “She’s a princess — and if you can’t handle her at her worst, you sure as hell don’t deserve her best,” says the Karen, quoting Marilyn Monroe.

I recently watched Hillbilly Elegy and found it was the perfect segue into testing some waters about our political views. There’s a lot of hard subjects there. You have to look for the nugget in what you see. Find the opportunity.

Many people struggle to find their voice in relationships. And when they do, it’s in the heat of battle when they’re distressed or angry. If you can say what you need, quietly, clearly and reasonably, you are FAR more likely to be listened to.

I shall attempt to circumvent this by describing everything Mickey was that I categorically was not. She was a natural athlete, with keen sense, quick movement, and a muscular build like a wolf. She was resilient, and endured cold and hunger like a bear. We couldn’t afford any dog food, so we just gave her leftovers; our house was too small so, even when it rained, she slept outside. She never made any complaint, as if, like a philosopher, she had learned that without hard work and suffering there would be no pleasure worth having. She was steadfast and measured, she wasn’t the type of dog who leaped onto furniture or rolled on her stomach for a belly rub. All of her movements were slow, deliberate, sphinx-like. She loved easily; it only took a couple of sausages thrown hastily from the back door for her to regard me as a friend. She was strong and confident and she had the foresight to stay — despite our reluctance — in our crowded and inhospitable home because she knew, somehow, she was here to change a life.

A young man I work with uses a WMC (Wednesday Marriage Chat) to talk things through with his partner. He says it’s “been amazing” because it offers a regular, neutral space for each of them to say what’s up, rather than storing it up until they’re at lash-out point. And they make sure they talk about the good things too.

This doesn’t mean “be bossy”. But it’s smart to avoid saying vague things to your partner like “I need you to do more”, “I’m unhappy with this situation”, “I want you to initiate things.” These may sound reasonable but they lead people to feel helpless or hopeless because they’re not sure what to do to make things better. If you want more help, ask for it in specific terms. I’d like to carve out some time to myself on Fridays. Could you please drop off the kids on Wednesdays and Thursdays? Are you able to take over the cooking on Mondays? You may not get an immediate yes, but it’s a better starting point for domestic negotiations.