Instead, couch your observation with softer, curiosity-driven language. Mia Rosenberg, a therapist and the owner of Upsi

Sex, cuddles, touch, banter, a shared joke — being close in whatever ways work for you BOTH. And, when you’ve drifted apart, noticing it and finding ways to come back together.

The happiest (established) couples keep planning. They have individual goals and interests but they craft their futures together. And — surprise surprise — it includes what BOTH of them want.

The happiest (established) couples keep planning. They have individual goals and interests but they craft their futures together. And — surprise surprise — it includes what BOTH of them want.

Willingness is the key here. Spending 1,000 silent hours at the opposite ends of the couch with your eyes fixed on television doesn’t count. Nor does the time you spend together because you have nothing better to do.

It’s not just good advice for parents. Right now — especially as the holidays approach — we’re all experiencing some heightened feelings, including some we may not know how to process or explain. And as we look for ways to stay connected to the people we love from a distance, applying the same principle of observations before questions can encourage much-needed emotional vulnerability.

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When couples first get together they often gauge a partner’s intentions by the way they talk about the future: should we do something for Christmas? Let’s plan a trip together? Making plans together demonstrates your investment. Of course, keeping those plans shows you meant it.

As the saying goes, when you get some free time, who you gonna call? That doesn’t mean spending every waking minute with your partner. It just means you like being with them — and create ways to make it happen.

Observations, on the other hand, cultivate connection by showing you’re paying attention, Braman explained in her post; that’s why she encourages parents to lead with statements like “You seem frustrated,” or “You’re full of smiles.”

Last year, when my son started kindergarten, my mom friends warned me that he might come home irritable the first few weeks. They were right: My normally happy-go-lucky five-year-old would trudge off the bus, throw his backpack on the entryway floor, and turn on the TV without a word (except to demand a bowl of Goldfish). When I asked about his day at dinner or at bedtime, he’d shut me down and change the subject.

A direct, “you seem” statement might work with your own kid, but for an adult, it might feel like labeling, which can trigger defensiveness or an emotional shutdown. The goal is to encourage the other person to open up about how they’re doing by showing you care, so frame your observation in a way that won’t make them feel judged or misinterpreted.

Observations “send the message that you notice changes in a person and are interested in knowing more about their experience, says New York-based psychologist Sabrina Romanoff, “all the while rejecting the superficial ‘how are you’ exchange and replacing it with genuine connection.”

Of course, talking to an adult friend or relative requires some different strategies (and a bit more care) than checking in with your kid over chicken nuggets. Here are some practical ways to use observations to strengthen your relationships.

It didn’t last long, thankfully, but I’ve spent the time since then wondering why a question as innocuous as “How was your day?” would prompt such a negative reaction. I recently found what seemed to be an answer in an Instagram post about how to get kids to talk about their feelings: Seattle-based therapist Lindsay Braman explained that such an open-ended prompt can increase anxiety, especially when you’re asking someone (like a five-year-old) to share emotions they don’t know how to explain.

Can you make each other laugh? Laughter is the surprising secret to many great relationships: humour (of the positive kind) can positively influence relationship satisfaction. You don’t have to run stand-up comedy routines or have exactly the same sense of humour, but to banter, to share an in-joke, or a belly laugh, to know the other person “gets it”, is binding in a relationship. It can hold even struggling couples together. And, at the very least, it can make a grey day seem brighter.