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I remember a guy I dated during the high-school. After a few weeks we were dating, he started to postpone or even cancel our dates. He was clearly not that into me, so I called it quits and moved on. Later, I met my first long-term boyfriend — let’s call him Daniel — and I remember I could definitely feel a different kind of interest.,Then, we slowly got to know each other, found out we had plenty of things in common, and he gradually started to open up. After a while, I noticed he tended to spend more time talking to me than to the rest of our group and smiled a lot when he was around me. It was that type of smile which involves not only your mouth but also your eyes and that you can hardly contain.,Years ago, while I was spending a semester in Barcelona to learn Spanish, I had a crush on a guy — let’s call him Pedro — who I perceived unattainable. I thought he would never notice this shy Italian girl who could barely speak his language. We hang out with the same group of friends; he was nice and friendly with me, but nothing more.,Unless you’re a mind reader, it’s almost impossible to know exactly how someone feels about you. However, there are a few signs that can help you understand whether someone is attracted to you or not.,He insisted on seeing me at least once or twice a week. He never canceled plans and always kept his word. And he was often the one to take the initiative and ask me out. I remember one day he came back after a one-week trip with the university, and he called me immediately asking me if I was free that weekend, as he couldn’t wait to see me.,Anytime I went on a date with Daniel, he always planned something new or a fun activity. For example, for one of our first dates, he took me to a blues jam session on a beautiful terrace downtown; another day, we went bowling; also, we often went hiking. He always had something exciting in mind.,We’ve all been there at some point. We’ve all been head over heels for someone who just wasn’t into us as much as we hoped. It happened to me too. I’ve found myself analyzing someone else’s behaviors and messages countless times.,And it was the same thing for me. For example, one day, I surprised him and took him to see a volleyball match as I knew he loved it. I would have never done the same thing with someone I was not genuinely attracted to.,When someone is genuinely into you, instead, they will remember most of what you told them. They might remember small details such as something you did during your dates or even the shoes you wore. Because in the end, we remember the things we care about.,Someone who is truly into you usually can’t wait to spend time with you. They will insist on seeing you regularly. There will be a first date, then a second one, then a third one, and you won’t find yourself seeing them once every two months. You’ll probably see them weekly — if you are interested to know them better too, of course.,As I’ve also found myself avoiding people I wasn’t attracted to. I pretended I didn’t see their calls, told them I was busy at work and replied to their messages after days. Just because I didn’t have the guts to tell them I wasn’t interested in a relationship with them. And believe me, I’m not proud of it.,You see, if someone is not emotionally attracted to you, they won’t bother to retain information about you. This means that sometimes they’ll remember something, while at other times — actually most of the time — they won’t.,According to an article published in Psychology Today, when someone is genuinely attracted to you, they typically smile more than usual, making direct eye contact, often with a slow glance away, but still holding the smile. And that’s the exact type of smile Pedro had on his face when he saw me.,Since then, Jake said, he’s come to regret his Cash App spree — not the actual donations, but his own impulsiveness. Did “throwing money around” make a difference in anyone’s life, or did it just make him feel better for growing up rich? What if he sent money to someone who used it to hurt someone else? What if he overlooked someone who needed it?,When someone is emotionally interested in you, you probably won’t find yourself analyzing their behavior or asking yourself if they’re just busy. You’ll feel their interest.