Getting Back Your Ex - How to Discover the Real Cause of Break Up and Make Them Love You Again

Sometimes the real reason why your ex dumped you may be far removed from your assumptions. Quite often we are so much obsessed with ourselves that we cannot think of any reason for break up that does not relate to us. It is another kind of egoism.

We think that the entire life of our lover just revolves around us and that they have no existence outside us. This is what leads to misunderstanding of the causes of break up and consequently the wrong steps that misfire in our efforts to make up with our ex. Here is how it may happen.

A help with your thought process

Just rewind what transpired between you two during the past few days so that you may get a clue for what he did. Quite possibly the reason why your ex broke up may have nothing to do with you. This is exactly why you are shocked.

Did he, for example, tell you that he was going nuts because he had been put on notice on his poor performance at his job? Or, he had not done well in his exam/interview/competition and he was looking to a grim future. Or, was he worried about the delayed payments of his credit card debts?

He was not doing fine with you in the bed, couldn't match your expectations on other issues. He had found you were too intelligent for him even though you never behaved with him like that.

That he had fallen in his own eyes and did not consider himself worthy of relationship with you. He had developed a kind of inferiority complex vis-a-vis you and wouldn't be able to give you the kind of company you deserved.

He was too heart-broken to be able to love you. That he was, in fact, trying to hide from you in the guise of breaking away from you. It is better to confine your misery to yourself rather than inflict it upon others.

Some men are too 'manly' to openly admit their weaknesses and try to quietly exit out of relationship so they do not have to face questions, be embarrassed or tell lies. But even the best thief, they say, leaves a clue. You have to get out of yourself, empathise with him to locate it.

How to get your ex back?

If you smell this type of reason for break-up, you should call up your ex or visit him at his residence even though he may not be willing to receive you. Don't touch upon his ailing spot or offer him your shoulder to cry upon. Don't even offer him your assistance. Don't show your compassion. This might hurt his ego.

Try to make him open up. This may not be easy in the beginning. He may gradually come out in bits. Tell him that it may happen with anyone and our life is not always under our control.

Some people cannot do the things because they are beyond their control. There is always the next time and you have full confidence in his ability to rise up. Tell him you love him for whatever he is. A reassuring hug and a kiss may work wonders in boosting his sagging spirits.

There may be several other individual reasons-there normally are that require a customized approach. It is not always sex, infidelity, coldness or monotony. Nobody is at fault and yet there is a breakup. You are left perplexed, lost and confounded. If there is a problem, there is a solution as well.

Whatever be the cause of your breakup with your lover, it may be infidelity, loss of interest and dispute for whatever reason, your relationship can be brought back to old love and warmth.

Sometimes the real reason why your ex dumped you may be far removed from your assumptions. Quite often we are so much obsessed with ourselves that we cannot think of any reason for break up that does not relate to us. It is another kind of egoism.

We think that the entire life of our lover just rev

olves around us and that they have no existence outside us. This is what leads to misunderstanding of the causes of break up and consequently the wrong steps that misfire in our efforts to make up with our ex. Here is how it may happen.

A help with your thought process

Just rewind what transpired between you two during the past few days so that you may get a clue for what he did. Quite possibly the reason why your ex broke up may have nothing to do with you. This is exactly why you are shocked.

Did he, for example, tell you that he was going nuts because he had been put on notice on his poor performance at his job? Or, he had not done well in his exam/interview/competition and he was looking to a grim future. Or, was he worried about the delayed payments of his credit card debts?

He was not doing fine with you in the bed, couldn't match your expectations on other issues. He had found you were too intelligent for him even though you never behaved with him like that.

That he had fallen in his own eyes and did not consider himself worthy of relationship with you. He had developed a kind of inferiority complex vis-a-vis you and wouldn't be able to give you the kind of company you deserved.

He was too heart-broken to be able to love you. That he was, in fact, trying to hide from you in the guise of breaking away from you. It is better to confine your misery to yourself rather than inflict it upon others.

Some men are too 'manly' to openly admit their weaknesses and try to quietly exit out of relationship so they do not have to face questions, be embarrassed or tell lies. But even the best thief, they say, leaves a clue. You have to get out of yourself, empathise with him to locate it.

How to get your ex back?

If you smell this type of reason for break-up, you should call up your ex or visit him at his residence even though he may not be willing to receive you. Don't touch upon his ailing spot or offer him your shoulder to cry upon. Don't even offer him your assistance. Don't show your compassion. This might hurt his ego.

Try to make him open up. This may not be easy in the beginning. He may gradually come out in bits. Tell him that it may happen with anyone and our life is not always under our control.

Some people cannot do the things because they are beyond their control. There is always the next time and you have full confidence in his ability to rise up. Tell him you love him for whatever he is. A reassuring hug and a kiss may work wonders in boosting his sagging spirits.

There may be several other individual reasons-there normally are that require a customized approach. It is not always sex, infidelity, coldness or monotony. Nobody is at fault and yet there is a breakup. You are left perplexed, lost and confounded. If there is a problem, there is a solution as well.

Whatever be the cause of your breakup with your lover, it may be infidelity, loss of interest and dispute for whatever reason, your relationship can be brought back to old love and warmth.