ERIKA LUST’S MUST-HAVE PRODUCT FOR A GUARANTEED SEXY VALENTINE’S DAY

ERIKA LUST’S MUST-HAVE PRODUCT FOR A GUARANTEED SEXY VALENTINE’S DAY

WHETHER YOU’RE PLAYING WITH A PARTNER OR JUST PLEASURING YOURSELF, BIJOUX INDISCRETS’ WARMING MASSAGE OIL WILL MAKE THE PLEASURE FLOW ALL NIGHT LONG

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Erika Lust is an indie erotic filmmaker who creates indie adult cinema with realistic, hot sex and relatable characters and scenarios, offering a more cinematic alternative to the mass-produced mainstream porn. When she started her career, they used to tell her there was no market for women in the porn industry. Today, she’s a pioneer in quality female-led erotic cinema, inspiring people of all genders to empower themselves through their sexuality. Here, she shares her choice for Product of the Week – a weekly round-up of the Dazed Beauty team and wider community must-have buys.

WHY SHOULD I CARE? 
Bijoux Indiscrets is one of my favourite brands from the city I live in, Barcelona! The ladies who work behind it are incredible women and dear friends, and all of their products are vegan and cruelty-free, which means they haven't been tested on animals. As a vegan myself, this is an important factor to consider when choosing the products I use.

I like their ‘Slow Sex’ collection because it was designed to claim what we usually consider ‘preliminaries’ as actual, good sex and not only as some kind of prelude practice before “real” sex. ‘Slow Sex’ is a series of products that want you to take your time to feel the pleasure and connect with yourself and one another while letting you go to the rhythm of touching, kissing, licking, biting… which is all I look for when shooting my own films!
I like this Warming Massage Oil so much because of its sweet coconut aroma that makes it perfect for a hot, sensual massage to/by a partner all over your body… before you dedicate yourself to licking and kissing it all! Once you apply it on the skin, gently blow on it to boost the warming sensation and make your Valentine’s night hotter! Nothing better than spending a night by giving each other mind-blowing shivers of pleasure.
“I LIKE THIS WARMING MASSAGE OIL SO MUCH BECAUSE OF ITS SWEET COCONUT AROMA THAT MAKES IT PERFECT FOR A HOT, SENSUAL MASSAGE TO/BY A PARTNER ALL OVER YOUR BODY… BEFORE YOU DEDICATE YOURSELF TO LICKING AND KISSING IT ALL”

Many similar products on the market happen to be quite sticky, which might result in a weird, uncomfortable friction on the skin that could easily kill the mood. The smooth texture of ‘Slow Sex’ Warming Massage Oil makes it extremely pleasurable when caressing the skin, so you can let yourself go with the pleasure flow all night with no interruptions.

This product is great for partner play but don’t underestimate its capacity to enhance your self-pleasure too! You can combine it with your favourite sex toy and raise the temperature of your solo play.
QUICKFIRE QUESTIONS 
It feels like… a warm, sweet caress all over your body.

If this product was a film, it would be... Hungry For Your Touch, one of my films about the power of human connection and physical touch.

If I were communicating this product to an alien only using hand gestures, I would... close my eyes, rub my body, and make a very satisfied face so they can tell I’m really enjoying myself.
HOW TO SURVIVE VALENTINE’S DAY IN LOCKDOWN AS A SEX-STARVED SINGLETON
Let me guess, you hate Valentine’s Day? Do you think it’s some money-making scheme devised to sell greetings cards, browning supermarket roses, and innuendo chocolates? Convenient, isn’t it, how such subversive displays of anti-capitalism always crop up around February 14. Especially when it’s all Amazon Prime, Deliveroo, and RuPaul’s Drag Race the rest of the year. “I mean, wasn’t it made up by like Clintons Cards or something?” Yeah, it could never be you indulging in this consumerist nonsense. Because on Valentine’s Day your loneliness isn’t just abject, it’s a political statement. God, it makes me want to take a romantic walk to Highgate and leave one of those giant Tatty Teddys at Marx’s grave. 

Even if you are in a relationship, it’s likely that you’re apart, which means (god forbid) another FaceTime wank. Nothing says I love you more than seeing your partner’s bits jittering about in slow-mo while your flatshare’s bandwidth struggles to keep up. Still, single people have had a particularly rough ride over the pandemic. A year of limited social and physical contact has got people rubbing up against walls and risking contamination to pay in cash, just to savour the brush of another person’s hand. Should we all go outside and clap for single people? Valentine’s can be a joyless day as it is, but the pandemic just makes loving hard. 

“SINGLE PEOPLE HAVE HAD A PARTICULARLY ROUGH RIDE OVER THE PANDEMIC. A YEAR OF LIMITED SOCIAL AND PHYSICAL CONTACT HAS GOT PEOPLE RUBBING UP AGAINST WALLS AND RISKING CONTAMINATION TO PAY IN CASH, JUST TO SAVOUR THE BRUSH OF ANOTHER PERSON’S HAND”

Thankfully, for Ericka Hart, a sex educator based in New York, loving yourself is not necessarily an entry requirement for self-love. “You don’t have to love yourself to appreciate and get to know your body,” they say. This Valentine’s, Hart advocates for a day spent with radical and realistic self-empathy, which is no easy feat given the events of the past year, “especially for those whose bodies have been traditionally marginalised”. Not to mention the added rigmarole of lockdown, which means that “there are lots of folks whose everyday material concerns far outweigh” any naff holiday obligations. To counter this, Hart stresses the importance of wielding compassion to “understand that you are not the problem”. 

This can start with “intentionally resting and lying with yourself”, but once you’ve done this and have inevitably stared into and beyond the abyss, here are some other ways to celebrate Valentine’s Day even when you are all alone.